FAQ

Objections, Questions and Answers

Question:

I’m afraid of trying and failing.

Answer:

Answer. Everyone is terrified of trying and failing - we've been conditioned to believe that failure is something to be avoided at all costs, and proof of our inability to accomplish goals. The only real failure is not trying something in the first place, or giving up after a few failed attempts. Those that are successful - at anything - are the ones who dare to try despite their fear, and the ones who stand up after they fall. Success is built through failure - not through avoidance of risk of failure.

Question:

I don't think I can do it.

Answer:

No one does. Ever. "It always seems impossible until it is done" - Nelson Mandela. All you have to do is try. All you have to do is start. And then all you have to do is keep trying. That's it. That is how we do impossible things we think we can't do.

Question:

I start things and I don’t finish—I don’t have follow through.

Answer:

Great. Then this is for you. The beauty of this program is that it is DESIGNED for people who give up and lack follow through. Our people are the ones who don't finish books, never stick to diets, and zealously start various craft and art projects without bringing them to completion. In Tempest Sobriety School you learn that it is not in the completion of any one task, and not in how perfect you do it - there are no grades, there is no certificate of completion at the end. It is simply death by 1,000 cuts. Everything you do adds up - so you can't fail.

Question:

I don't have the money to do this.

Answer:

This is one of our favorite arguments, especially because we spend so much money on alcohol and drugs and cigarettes. We further spend money on the things that come with this lifestyle - hangover food, cab rides, entry fees, etc., and we also spend money on cleaning it up.

There's also the insidious cost of things money can't buy - missed life experiences. There is no way to buy more time or a new life.

Please hear us on this: whether it this school, the massage, on the yoga class, the juice, the therapist, the coaching - invest in your recovery. The return on investment is the best thing you’ll ever discover.

Everyone is terrified of trying and failing—we’ve been conditioned to believe that failure is something to be avoided at all costs, and proof of our inability to accomplish goals. The only real failure is not trying something in the first place, or giving up after a few failed attempts. Those that are successful—at anything —are the ones who dare to try despite their fear, and the ones who stand up after the fall. Success is built through failure—not through avoidance of risk of failure.

Question:

Is there a scholarship program available?

Answer:

Yes. The Scholarship offers 25 seats in the school at a 70% discount and is meant to support underserved, disproportionately affected populations. You can apply directly to admin@jointempest.com

Question:

Can I do the program if I’m still drinking?

Answer:

Yes, yes, yes. This is designed for the whole spectrum - those still drinking, those who are starting to go through periods of abstinence, those who are far along in their recovery. This program is not designed to just help you quit drinking - it is designed to break up all the things that caused you to drink in the first place, and to help you create a life that is purpose-driven, meaningful, joyful, empowering and free, and at the same time, help you break up addictive patterns. The bottom line is that you and only you can really know when it is time to start attempting to remove the substance. You got here, you're reading these words, you are looking at purchasing a program - that means you understand that you need to change something and you are actively doing something about it. That means that you will know when to start removing booze and testing out sobriety.

NOTE, if you are in acute addiction, and in need of medically supervised detox, this program is not for you.

Question:

I don’t feel comfortable in group environments.

Answer:

We set this course up to allow for just this. You are free to stand around the edges and watch other people dance, and then jump in when and if the time feels right. We will share this - groups of people in recovery or sobriety workshops are not your typical "group environments" and the conversations that are had are by FAR more interesting than the ones you might encounter at, say, a business development course. There is a level of honesty, humility, and vulnerability that you often don't get a chance to witness or be part of. And small talk is almost non-existent because our kind of people don't small talk (we just can't).

Question:

I’m not sure I want to quit drinking.

Answer:

Many (most, all) sober people weren't sure, either. This is the process we go through. You don't HAVE to be sure. But if it is nagging you on some level (or destroying you on some level), you owe it to yourself to explore what sobriety or recovery might feel like. We don't believe abstinence comes before recovery. We think recovery starts long before abstinence. This program isn’t only for people who are already sober. It’s for people who are interested in exploring sobriety. Some of us happen to be sober and know we want to stay that way, some of us are trying on sobriety for the first time and still unsure of how long we want to/can do it, and some of us are still stumbling out of bars and going to bed after putting away bottles of medium-priced reds.

Question:

Does your program encourage people who struggle with alcohol to develop a support network?

Answer:

Yes absolutely. You'll have access to the online community shortly after registration, where you'll interact with your Teaching Assistant, each other, and a handful of alumni. This community will remain in place throughout our 8 weeks together, and beyond - the group will remain live forever. Also, many past participants and former clients have had a desire to stay and help others through or become involved - so there is also the opportunity to work with Tempest after you complete the course.

Question:

Will the course teach me how to deal with stress, anxiety, cravings and temptation?

Answer:

Yes. We’ll approach these things on three different levels. First, by giving you practices, tips, and tools to incorporate into your life so that you naturally reduce stress and anxiety and don’t need to escape/won’t hit a place of craving. Second, by giving you a toolkit so when cravings/temptations do strike, you have healthy coping mechanisms to turn to (and also by helping you become a great witness of your own behavior so you know how to manage it). Third, by providing you an understanding of WHY these things happen - education is KEY to learning how to manage behaviors.

Question:

Will this course help me create a life I don’t want to escape from, or at least help me not want alcohol?

Answer:

This course will help you lay the foundation for a life you don’t need to escape from. Meaning, we’ll look at all the areas of your life - your relationships, your purpose, your spirit, your energy, your health and nutrition, your routine, your joy, your environment - and give you tools to and tips and resources to create a life you don't need to drink your way through. Simply adding specific meditation practices and breath practices and addressing nutrition issues will greatly change things for you. Go one step further and add in all the other work we will do on spirit, relationships, society, purpose, etc., and you're well on your way to changing your experience dramatically.

Further, as a group, we'll be building on the idea it's not "normal" to drink - sobriety is not a consequence but rather an empowering, life-altering decision that opens many more doors than it closes.

Question:

Does this teach someone how to quit drinking?

Answer:

Addiction is a symptom of an underlying problem. We turn to addictive behaviors and substances to escape from something else - the original wound - and eventually the behavior or chemical turns into its own problem. Tempest Sobriety School will focus on going deep and working with the underlying cause, and also the secondary issue, the addiction. This will be done through myriad approaches - such as learning specific breathing exercises, meditation and yoga practices, education, nutrition, behavior modification, and other tools and coping mechanisms. We will absolutely go into the specifics of “How To Quit” (one of the modules is specific to this) but we will also be addressing the deeper issues and learning how to build a life we don’t need to escape from in the first place.

Question:

Will we discuss relapse?

Answer:

The top two concerns students have when it comes to quitting drinking is (1) they are afraid they can’t maintain sobriety and might drink again if they try and stop (or suffer their remaining days on earth missing it), and (2) they are concerned about losing their social life/being a social pariah. So relapse/failure/slips will be a huge theme.

We don’t truly believe relapse is the right word to describe what happens when we try and stop an addictive habit and fail at our attempt - relapse implies we return to a previous state and discounts all we have done. We believe people progress through mistakes and failures and the success of an individual depends on their ability to pick themselves up after falling down - not on whether or not they fall down in the first place. We have to test our edges to understand how to move forward and we firm believers "messing up" is part of the process. And that’s IT.

The course will address relapse on this level (how to frame it and remove fear around it). However and more importantly...by implementing the practices and tools we learn together over the eight weeks, we will severely reduce our chances of failing in the first place.

Question:

Will this course cover social issues? I’m concerned with how to tell my friends, my children, my spouse. I’m concerned with losing my social life. I’m concerned about how to socialize with friends that still drink. I want to know how to deal with friends who still push alcohol on me.

Answer:

Yes.. All of it. One of the biggest things for us to overcome is not necessarily how to stop drinking, but how to live in a world that drinks. There will be a lot of time dedicated to relationships, community, and society and we’ll answer all of your questions as well as empower and support you through any specific obstacles/situations you come up against. This won't be an explicit part of the course material, but it will be what we address most often in the online group, and in the coaching calls.

Question:

I’m interested in creating a sustainable practice that keeps me sober. Is this it?

Answer:

Yes. This is ALL about how to build a life that promotes health and joy and happiness and our PRIMARY FOCUS will be to give you all the tools you need to build the foundation for this. Over the course of the 8 weeks, we’ll slowly build daily rituals and practices that are fun and enjoyable and that will stick. The idea is not to live a life where you just make it without alcohol, but to live a life that is so freaking amazing you’ll never want to drink alcohol again.

Question:

Will this help me feel less ashamed about not being able to drink? I want to feel like a badass* about it but I tend to feel "less than," shamed, and different.

Answer:

Yes!! This is our top priority. To make you feel PROUD and empowered about the choice for sobriety. This is foundational to why Tempest was started, and so this is how everything we do is framed. We will naturally work on this shift in thinking with you. EVERYTHING about this course is meant to take you to a place of empowerment.

Question:

Is this a 12-step program?

Answer:

No.

Question:

Do I need to go to AA meetings? Is this in opposition to AA?

Answer:

This program is entirely supplemental to any recovery modality or can be used as a modality in its own right. Tempest believes that there is no one “right way,” to recover and we all have individual needs and tools that work for us. Each of us has a distinct path to walk and your recovery or process looks just like that - your recovery or process. For some of you, that might mean AA meetings. For others, that might mean never setting foot in the door of an AA meeting. This course is exactly the same no matter what your decision is.

Question:

What is the time commitment each week?

Answer:

As little or as much as you allow time for. The minimum is 5 minutes to read an email each day, 10 minutes for a morning practice, a few minutes throughout the day to incorporate a few practices, and one hour a week for a recorded lecture, one hour a week for a group coaching call (which is optional), and about one hour a week in assignments. So, minimum, about 3 to 5 hours a week for it to be of benefit to you. You could also go nuts and throw yourself into the work, and spend upwards of 20 hours a week.

Question:

What is the refund policy?

Answer:

Because there is limited space we do require a non-refundable $100 deposit. All requests for refunds or transfers for the remainder of the cost of Tempest Sobriety School must be made by contacting admin@jointempest.com within the first 3 days after the program has started. Full refunds or transfers to subsequent coaching groups will only be granted within the first 3 days. Because the space to the course is limited, there are no exceptions to this policy.

Question:

How does this work with therapy/counseling?

Answer:

Supplement and complement, not an alternative to. Tempest recommends that everyone seek out therapy, and part of the course will be dedicated to helping you find a good therapist.

Question:

I’m interested in 1:1 coaching, do you guys do that?

Answer:

We do, right now we offer 1:1 Accountability Coaching as a compliment to Tempest Sobriety School.